here's another question to see if I may have done it right finally.
This morning, he texted me four times, I ignored them all. Then he called me at 1:00 and I let it go to voice mail. I finally called him back about 30 minutes after that. He asked if I would bring him in some of his good clothes cause he is on Jury duty (which I already knew cause the notice came here and I had to get it to him) and wanted to have something to wear other than his greasy uniforms. I told him that I would TRY, but I have a busy day so it might not be til late...but I will TRY to do this for him. He said he really appreciated it and if I couldn't make it to let him know later so that he figure out something else to do for something to wear cause his boss said that he could not drive the truck out here just for some clothes. That was not acceptable to his boss LOL.
He talked a little about his day then and asked how mine was going. I told him busy, but good. Then we hung up. maybe a total of 5 - 7 minutes on the phone at the most.
So I'm going to take them in (his mom's house is about 30 miles from my house and that's where he is staying) but the only reason is that I have an appointment about 2 miles from her house anyhow at 4 pm. Otherwise I would not do this at this point. But I will not have to see him, he is at work and I will just drop them on the front porch and be gone.
But, did I do the right thing by putting him off a little like that? Did I do the right thing not committing but saying I would try to do it for him and telling him I was having a good day, without him?
Editing to add this: I DID do something for me yesterday and it felt sooOoooo good! I went and got a haircut LOL! Man that felt so nice for a change! AND I made plans for this Saturday to go to my high school reunion with a couple of my high school friends that I have reconnected with AND I made plans for next friday to go out to a movie with a bunch of my friends too. So I made a little bit of a life for me...that was really good in my opinion!! I'm glad I did it, cause I haven't cried since I did and I am feeling a little good about myself at this point. So, maybe it is helping me.
