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[ClingingToHope]

I agree about drawing the line with the MIL. It's part of the consequences. My STBXW said her mom is worried that she won't get to see the girls nearly as much. She likes having them over on holidays, summers, etc.

Well, they can do plenty of that on STBXW's time. In your case and mine the in laws are enabling the D or in your case separation so this is consequences for them as well.

Yes, all of the questions. Like Lucky said, I'm guessing they may never get answered or it may be years down the road when the R is so old and hard feelings have gone away that you can ask honest questions.

I really want to know what happened in counseling in 2008. I want to know if this motorcycle guy was more than just a friend.