You are doing good by not being easily accessable, trust me. But what I found is that emails or text were a good way to communicate when I was getting emotional and didnt want to talk for fear of making mistakes. That way you can be very calculated in your responses/ statements and avoid traps until you are collected enough to speak on the phone or face to face.
It seems to me that now you are very vunerable to traps, so stay the course. DO NOT expose the affair yet. Take time to get all your ducks in a row first. Have a plan. You want to be more prepared than her. The one thing going for you is that you can be calm and straight and she has the fog of chemicals going through her brain. Keep her on her toes, guessing. DO NOT disclose anything until it's time. Be the master....not a cooyon!
There's a lot of good advice here and you seem to be doing well with it, so hang in there. You are definately on the roller coaster and things seem to be escalating. Your story is very much like mine. I had a Cajun wife who is now living with the guy she met up in North LA. In fact, very close to where I gathered your W's OM is. I learned alot about myself and the whole experience changed me, but for the better.
I know it's hard, but there's many people here who share your experiece.
Hang in there!
Last edited by Sgfan; 07/06/1006:38 PM.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
