It's frustrating not knowing all the answers, but at some point, we just have to let it go b/c either we're not going to get a straight answer, it's not going to make a difference, or both. I have so many questions now too, so I completely understand your need for that closure though.
I love your idea about the mother's ring. I haven't worn my ring since we separated, so that is a great idea! It's only appropriate to have a ring signaling the most important man in our lives - our S's!
haha, I love friends and family. They always just want to "help". I guess it's just their way of helping us move on past our H's. I wouldn't close yourself off completely forever (obviously right now and until a D is final it is not a good idea) but someday you might just meet the right guy for you who is a great role model for S too. But it's definitely good that you have that independence too as that way you aren't dependent on a guy and as many women are, won't be happy until they've found another one.
Wow, that was pretty nervy of MIL. Very frustrating. It's great that she wants to continue a R with her grandson, but she needs to have a little more respect of you as the mother. I think you have the right idea about it to allow and encourage the R but also setting some boundaries. Sometimes all you can say is that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree! And regarding H's stuff, there's always the option when you're ready to just drop it off at his parents or set on the curb. A little bold but at this point, he doesn't deserve much more than that.
You have come such a long way emotionally. I hope I can get there sooner rather than later too. Obviously there are still questions and low points, but you have really found a way to make a happy life without H and are moving forward. So much fun stuff planned! Have a great time and just really enjoy it! =)
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
