New here, not sure where to start

[Mach1]

We had a discussion about it yesterdy and he said he didn't want me looking at them in case she happened to call or email, he says he has enough anguish in his life. I told him it was sad that his wife couldn't play Brickbreaker on his phone because he was worried his girlfriend might call. Told him it was one of those "what's wrong with this picture" scenarios.

I couldn't stand it, shoved his shoulder and left the store telling him that he picks the ugliest sluttiest women to sit and gawk at. When he came to the car, he denied flirting with her..saying that it was his fault that I am so paranoid about other women because of the A. And he says he looks at everyone, men and women--which is true. I explained the difference between looking and looking with purpose.

damned if I plan fun stuff and damned if I let him sit around and relax. He tells me that I am doing all the right things and that there is probably not one more thing I could do to move this along. he is the one that needs to figure out what he wants.

I can be a bit controlling, (found out thru C that it is related to abandonemnt stuff)and am working on that too. He has problems with decision making so I naturally assumed the role, someone had to. But believe me when I say I would love to give up some of the control..

I'm glad that you are working on that, because if this is the "new"....????

Yea.....a bit of a control freak goin on there....


If you really think about what you wrote in those....

Is that really the person that YOU want to be ?

Regardless of what he is doing, this is about you now...


Look I, Really read what you wrote, and google "controlling personality" , and then read just that again.....


Hi, my name is Mach, and I am a recovering control freak......