Ken62, I just read your stats..sorry to see that your divorce was final just weeks ago. i will check out the thread that you suggested. you know that it isn't going to work out with your ex and her new man. It's so sad that they are in such a fog that they don't realize that they're infatuation junkies right now to quelch that fear of growing older. I didn't realize that the process, while unique to every individual, is very scripted also. Like living in la la land or wanting to live a fantasy instead of seeing the real world and knowing what love really is. Also didn't realize that affairs are so prevalent in this syndrome and what an "addiction" they can be. i really need some info about OP withdrawl. I can't seem to find much about it.
It has taken me awhile to figure out what everyone means by "start thinking about you and what you want!". And even tho I am getting it or at least starting to, there is only so much I can do here where I live. If we can't fix this, I will need to pack up a 3000 sq ft house by myself, sell the house by myself, and move to where my family is..5 hours away, by myself. Find a job in this horrible economy with a 5 year gap in my resume-maybe go back to school, no health insurance-scary at my age, rent something that will allow pets. Cause I'm not getting rid of the only unconditional love source I have (besides God of course and that's huge). Anyway, to say that I have my work cut out for me is an understatement. There are times when it freaks me out and then I let God take it.
