One rule is that, if it looks like a skunk, and smells like a skunk, then it probably is a skunk.
It seems to be MLC, but I only have what you have typed to reference that.
First off, there are no guarantees that your marriage will be saved here..
Secondly, you need to relax and breathe for now, in MLC...NOTHING happens quickly.
Thirdly, You need to take this time to find out who you are and what you want in life , a life that may not include your current spouse. Picture that, and encapsulate that aspect in your everyday living now, for you.
MLC is hard schidt. One would never want to trade places in that.
MLCers are confused, and they are grasping for almost anything that can help them not spin into that vortex thatis destroying them emotionally.
It is a depression, one that is fed off of many things. No two MLCers are the same, although they all have very similar characteristics about them.
My advice for you would be to read and absorb the resources, and understand what it is that you are dealing with...
Then , I would protect myself financially. Men in MLC have a bit of a tendency to spend massive amounts of money on toys to feed their depression.
Read and ask questions.....others will be along to help as well...
What are some things that YOU could do for you, and some things that you could have done differently throughout your marriage ?
What were his complaints ?
It is said that you shouldn't believe anything they say right now...
But the complaints, and things he has accused of being, well, the rule is...
If it stings, then there is probably some truth to those things...
