Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[Ken62]

She said W will continue to say that the changes won't last to justify her decision. She doesn't want to admit she made a mistake. Maybe this is why I feel sorry for her. She has a negative aura around her that I want no part of.

Hey gr8,

I couldn't agree more with this. It always amazes me how my XW can and does remember and focus on the negative of our M and can quote chapter and verse of how she felt and where she was when recounting the bad times and you would think that's all there was.

It is nice not being around this and when her mother was here helping her move, her mother told my daughter nothing but the two negative stories about me from the first years of our M over 20 years ago! I guess I know where XW gets it.

I also believe in the justification aspect. XW doesn't want to think that she did anything wrong so I am always the bad guy and this will probably last for quite some time. Not until and if XW starts looking at herself will any real change come along and there is nothing I can do about that so I am just focusing on me and my future without her. Trying to keep those positive changes going and being the best Dad I can for my kids.

Best of luck to you gr8!