have you told us everything? Why would he feel the need to get you "out of his life" at any price?
i gave the whole story. when he dropped the d-bomb, it was because he felt i was disrespectful to his parents at christmas. his parents laid it on thick and said they were afraid of me. they also told him that they questioned his judgement in marrying me. i completely ruined christmas for him and his family and he was really angry about that at the time. his parents kept threatening to leave and were constantly telling him that they felt unwelcomed.
it's not the first time they've manipulated him that way. there was no big fight, no big shouting match between me and my in-laws. i don't cross that line no matter how much the other person pisses me off. i still have to show some level of respect. but when his mother cries and exaggerates her claims, he falls for it. all you ever hear from her is how she cannot live without him. that he is all they have. they don't want to lose him.
his father has said that he and his wife contributed financially to our wedding. and they are looking to get that money back. from who? me? uh .. who asked for his d?
if you think my h is angry, you have no idea how angry i am.
he said that the longer he stayed married to me, he was going to die. heart disease runs in his family and he was afraid he was going to have a heart attack. he said that he felt a d was the only solution. in order to save himself, he had to hurt the one that he loved. he may have had chest pains and an elevated bp at the time, but it was due to work stress. even his doctor knew that. but h decided to blame it on me. fine. after the stressful period at work ended, so did the chest pains and his bp went back to normal. really, it was the marriage? give me a break.
