I've always handled the checkbook, and he never asked questions, not for 20+ years. After the last exposure, he stopped having his check direct deposited into the household account. Now I must ask him for money to run the house and show him all the bills and credit card statements. He wants access to EVERYTHING. It's driving me crazy, especially since this is so damn one-sided. He wants me to account for every penny, yet he can spend every evening working late and I'm not supposed to ask questions?
Testing? Control? Getting ready to abscond with all the cash and leave me high and dry?
Originally Posted By: luvless
This is EXACTLY what happened to me - my STBX did the same thing. I filed on his disgusting a**!!
It IS a pain, but guess what? He's no longer accusing me of burning through his paycheck with wild spending sprees - unless paying the mortgage and buying groceries is "wild." If anything, it just added to his stress load, seeing how little he can buy on a professor's salary. If he'd gone into industry instead of staying in academia, he'd be making 10x more...
