I'd still encourage you to exhibit those behaviors that she:
- finds attractive
- address pre-affair marital complaints
- speak her LL, or
- that your intel shows that she finds attractive in OM.
You just have to be VERY careful that you don't PURSUE her with these, but rather that you quietly display these new changes sort of "in the background." Maybe let her see you exhibit these positive changes TO OTHERS (your kids, friends, even other women in a social setting), so that she can see that "you got it."
Just don't chase HER with them while there is still an active affair going on.
