And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[Truegritter]

but any resentment that exists is his. And since I have no control over any of that

I meant his not yours...

I agree with most of your assessments PEI...

I applaud your growth

You really have done a remarkable job understanding what this is and putting these ideas to work in your life.

A couple of observations:

In the stages of LBS.

There is a stage called "Temptation in the face of complete rejection."

This is where you have been working so hard on this and you are not seeing results and then are tempted to chuck it.

Let me say I am not trying to convince you what to do with your M. It is your choice and only you can ultimately decide what is right for you.

If your H is MLC it WILL take a long time for you to see anything you begin to like.

As Mach said to me, just think how much effort and time it took for you to come to the place you are at now...

AND

You had this place...and these wise people to guide you...

Is H somebody you want to be with right now?

No?

Three months ago were you somebody you would want to be with?

Are you saying you want to get a D?

Or

Are you saying you are going to live your life?...

Because that is what you should be doing regardless.

These things did not happen overnight and they will not be rectified or reconciled overnight.

Just something to think about...

and only my humble opinion.