We've spent a lot of time of the phone together buddy. I know what you want...I know how much your children mean to you. I understand as a MAN the feeling of having to be a provider. I know man..I know..
I agree with Bill-
What your W has done is wrong. Using your children as a pawn to secure financial relief is wrong.
I also agree with Cat to some extent - Initially you wanted the family back (that included your w). - You have grown but you are not completely there yet (and it's okay...hell who know if we ever get there)
I agree with Mach - Do what is in the best interest of the kids. Nothing less than there interest should drive any action on your end. - This is a tough balancing act.
So here is what I would suggest... - Try to come to an agreement with regards to the kids. You can't control her but you can control YOU. - Implement a plan immediately so that you begin to see the kids with some degree of consistency - Take some time and think about the logistic of the kids. Can you take them to school, can you make them dinner on the days you have them, can you make after school events, can you attend parent teach conf, etc. - Work on forgiving your W. As hard as it is..you need to do it - if not for her, and not for you...you do it for you kids. - Layout exactly what you want and why.
Finally, whatever you do...do it with love. Loving her does not mean you bend over and take it...NO - it means understanding that she has been the primary parent for a while and needs time to adjust as do the kids. Can this adjustment happen - yes - it has to. Your boys need you. Cool things..is right now...you get to redifine what the R between the kids and you is. You drive this...just make sure your not driving with road rage.
God Bless you, Oh..btw...my son says "hi".
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
