Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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But what if the in-laws aren't "in it to win it" so to speak? Her mom isn't the best hardliner, and has a habit of telling my wife what I have told her.

That just makes me look pathetic to my wife, and probably her parents too.

And yes it is pathetic what she is doing. VERY. But she is so, so, so, so headstrong that she will pursue something until she gets what she wants. Period. If she wants this guy, the ONLY thing that will stop her is if he tells her to drop dead, or that he is seeing someone.

I am nervous about re-re-exposing. I told her mom the first time, then told her about the continued contact. My wife ran counter-exposure saying he's just a friend. She even told her mom that she (her mom) knew him back when she (my wife) and him were in high school.