Different states have different family law about when the marriage became "irrevocably damaged," etc., and when "separation" occurred, etc. Some even will interpret a betrayed spouse's voluntary LMing with their cheating spouse as being their tacit approval, and therefore nullifying their opportunity to file for D on grounds of adultery, providing the betrayed spouse knew about the infidelity at the time they re-consummated their marriage.
I'm not attorney, and not all jurisdictions make this difference, but some definitely do. Certainly worth discussing with your atty.
Puppy
Ah ha. I see now. I have not had sex with wife since I found out EA/PA. I don't think I could now anyways until we actually reconciled..and OM is out of the picture.
Still best to be informed about its legalities there. She may attempt it at some point, and -- as "the flesh is weak," as they say -- forearmed is forewarned.
Puppy
I know she will. It will be hard to resist. I know formyself, right now(if it indeed happened)I cannot go where another man has been. I just can't do it.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10