Setting them free

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I was thinking about this topic, "Setting them free", while walking my dogs.

What sprang to mind was what kind of person you need to be to maintain a healthy relationship.

Specifically, I was thinking about the Three Cs:

Confidence: No matter what, you know you are going to be OK.
Character: Being principled. Doing what is right as if God is sitting right there watching everything you do. No cheating, lying, manipulating, and so on.
Control (as in Self-Control): No drunkeness, no calling somebody who doesn't respect you and want to be with you, good health routines (excercise), and so on.


Now granted, few people who come here have healthy partners, so these things may not attract their partners back to them (unless they become healthy themselves), but do you really want to be with somebody who is that unhealthy? They will drag you down into their personal Hell if you let them.

In the event that reconcilliation does not happen, wouldn't you want to be the kind of person that can be in a healthy relationship before you got into another relationship?