Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Well apart from the IC issue, there is ANOTHER one with the OM

She sent him a Facebook message last night, asking why he hasn't responded, and when she can visit.

And earlier yesterday, she took more pictures and sent him a MMS message. They weren't nude pics, but they were DEFINITELY suggestive.

He has sent her only 1 text message in almost a month, and it was very harmless. But she has pursued him to no end.

I told her mom about this continued contact, and she said she was "disappointed". HOWEVER my wife also talked to her, and just lied saying he was "an old friend".

I am getting the feeling her mom is no longer REALLY with me, and sees how far gone my wife is. She may be telling me just what I want to hear. She also has let my wife know I talk to her, which gives my wife a one-up on me.

I am afraid if I continue to talk to her mom, she is going to think I am obsessing, or am trying to force my wife into something she doesn't want.

How do you keep a parent in the loop and on the side of the marriage? I watched the video with them, but I REALLY get the feeling they just want their daughter to stop hurting, and they think that I am the one who is pushing to hard.

I am REALLY at a loss what to do. I know nothing will ever change should she continue to pursue this other guy.