They call her names behind her back but no one will actually publically protest?
You seem to have a situation similar to Ken in that no one seems to like this woman but no one wants to speak up enough to put a stop to the nonsense.
It's a climate of total acceptance. I've never seen anything like it.
You know how celebrity couples get branded with blended names like "Bennifer" and "Brangelina?" They do that at the University when couples hook up. I thought it was funny at first. I'm not laughing anymore - especially since I heard WH & OW's combo name, which makes them seem exciting and mysterious. Breaks my heart.
One of WH's other female grad students left his lab as soon as she could because she was cheated on by her husband, likes me, and HATES OW. WH lost all respect in her eyes, which is considerable because at one time, she thought he "hung the moon." But I don't think she complained to anyone, she just left as soon as her coursework was done.
Originally Posted By: Allen A
I wonder how many other women have to tolerate infidelity at the University...
I know of at least 4 - there are probably dozens more. "Everyone's doing it," the University condones it, and my husband went right along with it. I'm the ONLY wife to openly object, and I know you think I haven't done it nearly enough - but trust me when I say I'm the lone voice of dissention here. That's why they think I'm crazy. Maybe I am, trying to fight this Goliath.
One BS got her husband to move to another University and another has been talking about divorce for 6 of their 8 year marriage, but they're still together.
Originally Posted By: Allen A
It would be great to be able to go to the social work dept of the university and have a family therapist come to the uni and have a huge talk about infidelity... Put Infideility posters all over the campus... You would need a contact list of other wives from that Uni who are being cheated on to make that happen I would imagine... That would be a huge dent there... An infidelity smear campaign all over the campus on the practice in general... By a collection of women with support from the Department of Social Work
It's a great idea, but I don't think it would never happen. When the Provost tells your husband that "as long as you're consenting adults, we're ok with that," you know the infidelity starts at the top and they're not going to do anything to curb it.
The ONLY thing that might have an impact is massive media exposure. But I'm not willing to sacrifice my marriage for it, which is what it would come to at this point. Maybe if we divorce or if we move to another University once this is over and done with (which I'm beginning to think would be the best thing - a new start in a new place with no OW history), I might consider feeding this to the media. They'd have a heyday with it, particularly if it was during graduation week or back-to-school week.
