Another hard thing about the DB strategy for me is knowing when to start acting more "normal" to her, more affectionate etc. She's as stubborn as me, and has always let me take the initiative with everything in our relationship. Do I wait til she begs forgiveness etc.? Is it that obvious, or are the any subtle signs to watch for?
Obviously there's nothing subtle right now. Just distance between us, though we do laugh and talk ok. Just a lot of resentment and anger bubbling under the surface for her. Me, I'm still just scared and trying to focus on the positive things I see and do.
