Truegritter: If explaining our changes if off the table (and I understand why it wouldn't be a good thing to do), if our H/W asks about our change of heart or 180, then what is the best way to explain it?
Shortly and sweetly...
Me? My W told me she needed space so I always say when confronted about my detachment...
"I am trying to be patient and give you space."
Meanwhile live your life for YOU.
They WILL notice the change even if they do not say anything.
Remember this though, the reason we guide you to no R talk is you are on this journey and you are not the change you want to be ....
Yet.
So
Everytime you open your mouth you confirm that you are the person they left and don't want to be with now.
There is time for all things under heaven...
When you become whole, and THAT person shows up, then...
...it is a whole new ballgame.
Maybe A whole new M can begin.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
