Thank you for your reply Shelldoll. This is all so confusing, I'm not sure I understand what you mean when you say I'm letting him control my responses to the sitch?? I understand I can only change me, that is good advice thank you. Everytime I say I won't stand for these things he says neither will he and threatens to leave so I'm not sure how I should be standing up for myself and being strong without him going??
