no problem and i really feel the need to respond to you because i remember how i felt being with my newborn not too long ago (my son just turned one...yay!) and having my husband talking to the OW. The difference is that your husband has already planned to move out of the country. For this reason I am going with my gut that your first priority should be setting up a something legally regarding child support. Don't even press the visitation issue right now but if your husband tries to pull that card do not be frightened. No judge in family court would allow a newborn that you are breastfeeding to be away from his mom for a long period of time (confirm this in your county) but I am pretty sure it is true everywhere. I am just worried that your husband is going to try and dodge his financial obligations to your baby as well.
Don't overwhelm yourself at this time....take things easy breezy. i am also a fixer and i spent countless hours on this board trying to worry about how to save my marriage when i should have just focused on letting go and making new memories with me and my newborn. i was always on this board while passing time whild breastfeeding...lol.
i will repeat this again....STOP CONTROLLING THE SITUATION. you don't need to facilitate anything. Your husband is a grown man and can figure out visitation on his own...what he must realize is that you are not at his call and he MUST let you know ahead of his plans to see the baby.
one other word of advice regarding your "robx" speech....THERE IS NO NEED FOR A SPEECH...ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS...just do what YOU want to do and your husband will GET that you are moving on.
keeiping you and baby in my prayers...
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
