Thanks 4luv, so you cannot make anyone be a parent, like you cannot make anyone be a partner/spouse?
Again though, how might the Robx speech be adapted to this sitch? Something like "I am OK with your decision to leave and actually, with you out the way, I can be the best mother possible to this child. I am looking forward to bringing her up and perhaps growing our family one day with someone special who wants to be with us. I get it now that you love OW - go off and be with her. I see now you are right for each other". Would that be it?
I mean, I actually don't think I really beleive the above...part of me thinks it's partly a crock of sh!t. Am I the one with the acceptance problem? Please send 2x4's. I am a slow learner and need help!
As for not being responsible for my WH's parenting, I have a question. WH has not asked about our baby (6 weeks old) for the past two weeks while he has been galavanting with OW o/seas and where he is looking for work to establish himself. One question I have been asking myself today is should I be updating him on a hospital check she had today (she is not seriously unwell, but has an joint issue which needs to be reviewed) or sending him photos of milestones - in this case,a photo of her fist smile?
