1. You send him a note before hand explaining your position. Do NOT wait for him to try to contact you 2. Change your email address and cell number 3. Until email and cell is changed you keep a freidn with you at all times and give THEM your phone 4. No contact must be BOTH WAYS.. If you are still reading his messages you aren't going dark... you are just leaving an IMPRESSION of going dark... you have to cut contact off both sides.. remove his number from your cell phone, his email from your address book, etc 4. Keep a freind with you at all times, who is in the loop on your efforts.. share with them when you feel the urge to call so they stop you 5. Have a friend stay with you for a couple weeks to run interference if your H decides to come by and force his presence on you 6. Setup an auto reply on the email account if he emails telling him you no longer read mail sent to that address 7. Have his phone number auto bounce him to an automated message saying his calls are not welcome 8. he will still try to call from another number... so have a friend screen all yoru email and your phone calls for you
