haha! stbxh just dropped off S. I was wearing a dress today "just because." (stbxh picked up S early,I did chores around the house, then visited my grandma to help her pay her bills online, then went to my therapist)

Well, stbxh says to me "you look nice. Did you do something?"
I tell you, this is the second time he has complimented me on my looks during this whole year+separation and the third explicit question about my plans in three days! I evaded the question at first because I was holding S and he was wiggling around. Then said 'well ONE of the things I did was help my grandma pay her bills.' haha!

OK and then about 7:50 I got a wild hair/flash...that if I DON'T acknowledge S' FIRST b-day with stbxh, then the only person he will be sharing it with is the selfish bitch! (OW)

So before they arrived, I quickly grabbed a cupcake, slapped some frosting on it (that I made earlier), and an Elmo face that I made. I showed stbxh the cupcake and said "do you want to celebrate his birthday tomorrow after his shots?" and added "wow, this time of day last year I was getting all hooked up for his birth!" he just said "yeah...it's hard to believe isn't it?"

folks... I won't hate him because he is too sad! He has special needs in the relationship/emotions department. Damaged people need love too...but he needs too much work right now!

Last edited by newmama; 07/06/10 03:43 AM.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004