I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

I said reading wouldn't work because while I love to read, I get very easily distracted if I'm occupied in my mind ;-) I think I need to do more active things to detach from the urge to contact, like email people or call them. I also thought of even just writing on a piece of paper "I will not call him" like 100 times. Or set a clock and say "I will not call for an hour."

You're so right, I would not date him now "as is."

I have one other question. What does anyone think about going out for a casual lunch or something with a member of the opposite sex while one has "gone dark"? I may have an opportunity to take someone up on this who seems interested, who is also single, and my intention is not "revenge"; it's that I want to have a good time and feel good about myself. Is this dangerous? Do you avoid all contact with a person of the opposite sex in a one-on-one situation while you're avoiding contact with the WAS?