BTW, it's looking like this thread is just "our little club".
throw a couple Monty Python references in and everyone flees.
Over thinking noted. The gravity of the situation tends to create analysis. It was also mentioned in 'Nice Guys'. We analize rather than just feel. I'm trying but it's a 47 year old habit.
BTW, it's looking like this thread is just "our little club".
throw a couple Monty Python references in and everyone flees.
Over thinking noted. The gravity of the situation tends to create analysis. It was also mentioned in 'Nice Guys'. We analize rather than just feel. I'm trying but it's a 47 year old habit.
Well, don't get me wrong, I do think the BIG stuff requires pretty carefully worded boundaries, a la Coach's thread. Complete with consequences. But common rudeness should just be called out immediately for what it is, and if you do it, you'd be surprised at how people will respond (most will knock it off immediately. My wife did. I told her once "I hope that's not your boyfriend you're texting. That would be really rude and disrespectful." She denied it was, but she never did it again).
I'll give my wife credit for this much, she pretty much respected the few boundaries that I did lay out (letting our boys know when she would be home, letting me know if she'd be gone past any mealtime, so we could make sure they were fed, no texting or calling OM from inside our home, and if you're going to stay out 'that late' again (2am), don't bother coming home.
I think it's because I confronted her so quickly and so forcefully on her affair, and then exposed it pretty swiftly (about 2-3 weeks) as well. She knew I meant business.
I'm gonna have to play catch up on the boubdaries as i've let her get away with too much.
And the A part of the show is coming up.
She emailed me a list of household items and how she sees the split of materials. I think she's pushing because the A is getting "bigger" and/or trying to reduce the guilt.
Whatever. I've got to hire a lawyer to push for the real estate excemption. This won't go over well but she broke a rule bigger than "no lawyers". All bets are off.
"I felt it wise to get some competent advice, as I've never been thru this sort of thing" is the only explanation you need to eventually give if she objects.
Does anyone find it odd that she continues to wear my pajama bottoms? She even mentioned it as one of the items I should put on my list of stuff. I said "Here, have these. They don't fit me anymore" She put them on. WTF?
I need to verify this marriage and get her out of this house. I think only then will it start to sink in. And for me, too. GAL'ing will be easier without worrying whether she'll see my changes as pursuing" (e.g If she sees me go downstairs to work out it will seem pretentious)
I liked the "Decide to go elsewhere if it's what you want but you don't get me, too"
