And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[Truegritter]

PEI

This all GREAT stuff for YOU.

My first take on it to write this down so you don't forget this moment.

I would NOT say this H.

That is if you still hold hope for any R.

There is a very strong tendency to tell spouse of your new found changes and revelations. (I know this too)

H is not in a place to understand or hear this.

If anything I think it will fuel resentment and there is already enough fuel for that fire provided by your M. Yes?

He is not ready to hear this from you.

These changes are for you.

If anything this means you just detach more and live your life like he isn't coming back. No need to inform him of this either.

Tell him you forgive him if and when he asks for it.

Unless you are truly done...

There is that old thing we say:

You can't talk yourself out of something you acted your way into.

Live your changes...for you.