I'm having an extremely difficult time dealing with this issue. Since I found out about the affiar, everything has gotten ugly. We agreed on damn near everything for the seperation agreement until it came to the kids. I explained to her that the kids need to feel comofrtable through it all and need stability so they should stay in the house. I am moving back to VA in January and I told her I intend to move back into the house. She will have to find another place but she may come over at any time or take the kids out anytime. No major restrictions. At first she agreed because she knew that was best. I haven't seen my kids for more than 10 days at a time over the past 3 years. Later, she renegged and told me she was taking "her" kids and she will fight me. I don't want to fight her. Unfortunately I have damaging evidence that, if brought into the open, would not be good for her. It's not much but posiibly enough. I just don't want it to get that far. I want what's best for the girls and she's not seeing it that way. This is all still very much painful for me.
