I have to say that I agree with Mach and MHL on this. He has to be the one to come to you!
You just keep doing what you have been...from what you have written, he feels safe when he is there helping bale hay and you don't want to change that!!!
Patience my dear!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing