SA, my Ds are only now beginning to make peace with the situation and have more contact with H, and it's been more than 18 months since our S. Your children are old enough to work this out on their own. They will, in their own way and time. All you can do is model forgiveness and compassion, and give them support when they need it.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man