Young at heart, yes I agree that I wasn't vigilant, I suppose I felt secure and got so wrapped in other things that I took my husbands love and support for granted and stop bothering to give anything in return. It wasn't because I didn't love him, I just placed him way down on my priorities list, which was were I put my own needs as well.
I'm not sure if my husband has given up completely. At the moment it seems that we stand no chance of getting back from where we are, I want to try, not to save things but to build something we'd both be happy with but he's not sure if his feelings for me will ever come back. He's very angry, feels unloved, and is unable to imagine going forward at this point. He hasn't left, we have to small children (6 and 4) and he says he doesn't know how he'll feel in the future. I can see that maybe starting over would be easier but I hope we can find a spark and build something better now I see things more clearly. Who knows what will happen...
