Being thick here I guess, but if I'm reading you right I have no problem with H having the bike. I encouraged him for years to get one again if that's what he wanted.
I read on here and I think it was you (maybe J3B?) that posted saying that it was pride they believed that kept some M from Ring. Could be either the MLCer's or the LBS. All I wanted to know was if there was something I could say that would plant a seed to let H know that the light was still on in the window if at some point he wanted to rebuild with me.
2 x 4 me if you think I need it.
What are your actions saying to him ?
Have you stated in the past that you are for reconciling ?
Have you told him that you do not want this ?
I did say that, and I stand behind it.
At what point would you take him back ?
Without any work on his part ?
I also said that I am NOT against Relationship talks either...Just against relationship talks initiated by the LBS....
All of it becomes pressure if they are not ready to hear what you are saying...
And I have said before, that I'm not so sure that he doesn't view you as just standing still waiting for him to catch up...
Pride is a large pill to swallow, and it doesn't taste to good either.
There is a reason it is one of the seven deadly sins.
There will be a time for everything, I'm just not convinced that this is the right time for it ...
He has a loooooonnnnggg way to go on his journey, and hasn't shown too many signs that he is ready to hear anything.
