I guess I just want to be prepared if H wants to talk about my recent tantrum. I don't want to say any more that will harm him. So while I am fully willing to detatch and GAL, if H asks how he plays into the picture, is there a best-case-scenario response?
Lisa, I can't remember if you have read DR yet but if you have go back and re-read again. If your H is willing to open up to you then that would be great. All you do is listen. There is no smoke and mirrors here, just listen. I am sure you have heard of actively listening. Also validate his feelings, you want to have a better understanding of his feelings.
Do not defend yourself, let him get it out, his frustrations, his confusion, his anger whatever. Being able to communicate with our spouses about how the other is feeling without fear of reprisal is a huge piece of the puzzle IMO.
What is the current situation? Is he in Europe? Your at your parents? What is the status of your home/house? Is your H still in his apartment? Give us some more details.
You are right about 2 Queen Cities, Charlotte, NC and Cincinnati, OH. I am from and near Charlotte.
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