WHY DO WE DO IT?

[navajo]

Truer words were never spoken!

It took me a while to finally open my eyes, and I really appreciate the forthright words from you fine folks.

I started implementing some of the strategies tonight. She came over after work to see the kids. As soon as she got here, I put on my shoes and went outside to continue fencing in the garden (even though it was 95# out there!). She kept coming out and trying to make small talk with me and i kept my answers friendly (nuetral) and short and kept on working. She made a few trips out there and when it was obvious I was busy, she said, "well, I have to go, the shower broke and I don't know if I can fix it." I said OK and kept working. She stood there for a few more minutes then walked away with a confused look on her face.

I feel better than I have in a few weeks! And, before you ask, no it's not because I feel like I am "paying her back" but because I don't feel all knotted up inside and wondering what she is thinking.

Thank you so much for the encouragement to make myself into a better person and not try to change someone else (IMPOSSIBLE!).