Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[xin]

Journaling:

H is starting to look for another apt to move out to since I'm not showing any intention of going anywhere. I think i've detached to a point where I actually would love to be out of here. But I won't make it so easy for him. He would just have to live with his decision. Is this vengeful? I did offer to go look for places with him, but he declined.

I'm contemplating telling the OW's H about her A with my H just so that she can't walk away with too much of her H's properties. Is ths even more vengeful?

So far none of H's family has contacted me at all. Most of them are overseas so we never had much contact, but I thought we got along when we do see each other. Should i write to them to tell them my side of the story? tell them about H's A? Maybe I should sleep on that for now.