Setting them free

[4luv]

i just want to respond to this thread....I WISH I WOULD HAVE LISTENED TO THIS ADVICE EARLIER. I tried the be the better option advice, don't rock the boat...NONE of which worked. I registered on this board in Oct and it wasn't until I MOVED OUT AND AWAY that my husband started to turn around. It took ONE AND A HALF MONTHS from the time I moved out until he OFFICIALLY came back 100%. not even a week after i moved out he started talking about us being together, asking me if i would move back, etc. I ignored for the most parts all those attempts until I knew for sure that the OW was out of the picture. The OW blew up after husband dumped her and called me to tell me everything and to say "he has been lying to both of us...blah, blah."

since we have been back together (still living seperately but moving in together in a few weeks...well i will be moving into our new place slowly) the one thing husband says is that he noticed my changes but he wishes that I would have left him sooner...lol.

No one DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP! Don't take it...no matter how long you have been togehter. My confidence was low so I know how that can affect your decisions so don't rely on yourself to make the best decisions...If one of my friends was going through the things I put up with then i would have told them to leave. You try but you can't let someone walk over you and cheat on you in your face...it is disresptful and if you can't respect yourself then no one else will either.