Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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He said he is going to do what is right, he is making changes for himself, and then he is watching how those changes affect her.

That's right.

What is right = KEEPING MY PROMISES. I failed at that beforehand, and now I need to keep them NO MATTER WHAT.

=Being a responsible homeowner.
=No more complaining about things out of my control
=Appreciating what I have and my family
=My job does not define me
=My accomplishments are only PART of who I am
=Taking the initiative and NOT procrastinating
=Makig new friends and PUTTING OTHERS FIRST
= MANY other things.

THOSE ARE THE RIGHT THINGS TO DO NO MATTER WHAT. Whether I am single or married, THEY ARE RIGHT.

I NEED to make them PERMANENT in my life. However, I also do from time to time see how that changing affects my wife.

And yesterday it hit her hard after 30 straight days of DB and a HUUUUUGE laundry list of changes I made for the positive. FOR ME ME ME.

All I am saying is that I really and truly do love this woman, and it hurts me deeply to see her want to go. BUT THAT IS HER LOSS. She is curing the disease by KILLING THE PATIENT.

But I pray to God every day that my marriage could be healed and transformed into a new better one with the new better me.