This is my first time posting here, but after reading your post I felt I just had to reply.
...He was right and I know this is going to sound silly but I really didn't realize how bad it had got, I know I should have, and that I should have know I was hurting him but I was so wrapped up in everything else I was just treating him like another annoying thing on my list of things that I need to take care of, I was treating sex as a chore, something that he needed but I was to tired or not emotionally in a place to be bothered with.
...Maybe I'm projecting a little as I know that's how I feel on my side of this but please consider trying something different. The women who loves you may still in there somewhere you just have to get her to see you clearly again and realized that your relationship is important to her too.
First thank you for the courage to post your feelings.
I think that what you have said is somewhat like what I think my wife felt at times.
I think that many women just don't understand how important touch and sex is to some men. I also think that many women really don't want to loose their husbands, but are not vigilant or pro-active enough to stop drifting apart from happening.
As you said, many women when they finally "get it" will come around to building the relationship with their husbands.
I am unclear from your post if you husband totally gave up on your relationship and your marriage failed because of it or if you were able (or are still trying) to save things. Either way I hope that you find happiness and what you are really looking for.
Sometimes I think it would be easier with a new partner to just start over with a clean slate and no baggage. Other times I know that saving my troubled marriage was worth it. I am sure that for different couples different rules apply.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
