The POINT is that Ken you need to make it crystal clear to your wife that whatever deluded fantasy she's envisioning is NOT going to happen... It reads like you are trapping stuff she's typing so you are in the know here... Whatever she thinks is going to happen just detail out what she believes and tehn tell her it will absolutely NOT be the case... by LAW and CHOICE you will not accept it ...
Keep destroying those fantasies...
I would get a background check on OM...
This guy could be a child molester for all you know... If he's pushing this hard I would make a case for his potential as a sex offender to the police...
Thanks for that advice. I will probably get a background check on him.
READY FOR A LITTLE DRAMA?: I had the day off, so W decided to leave the kids with me and go to work. (She works in a private lab owned by a fellow church member. Sometimes she works by herself if the owner is not there.) Around lunch time, I got the bright idea to go there and surprise her, and when I arrived, my oldest daughter peeked into the window and saw guess who - that's right, the OM talking with her. (We also saw his truck outside.) We went in and the OM had run off to hide in the bathroom. My oldest daughter said, "Mommy why is the bathroom light on and the door locked?" I didn't say anything. Maybe I should have, I don't know.
When we left, I asked W, "Who's truck is that?" She said, "I don't know." I took the kids to lunch (W already had lunch) and took the oldest daughter back over to her work, but by then, OM was gone and W had been trying to find us. (She drove to the restaurant and went back to work.)
My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.
Sorry Ken, I can't stop thinking about this... WHy would he HIDE? He's been quite overt up to this point... why HIDE NOW?
Ken go right to your wife today and say this :
Don't think I'm an idiot, I know who's truck that was and I know what coward was in the bathroom... Very brave man he is... Hiding in the bathroom from children... This is your idea of a romantic fantasy?
And LAUGH AT HER... Then walk away still laughing...
DO IT.. It will help nail that fantasy again... And give you more credit in teh process showing her you aren't an idiot.. she might think right now she's outsmarted you
Go make it clear you are a bright guy and that OM is a coward... THe above should be fine
And last point...when you walk away, she will very likley say something.. IGNORE it... She will bait you and tell you he's brave and this and that.. just keep laughing and walk away... do NOT even LOOK at her.. just laugh and laugh and walk away to your kids.. give them a big hug
Ken.. tell this church member OM was there... make sure church member knows this guy is a creep and that he's pursuing your wife.. ask the guy to inform your wife OM is no longer allowed on the premises or she will be fired...
And you can angle it that he was distracting her from her work... And he's been there before... Tell the church member he's NOT helping her get her work done that's for sure... HOPEFULLY this church member has the balls to support you and he will tell your wife OM is banned from the lab
BOOM! Exposure in the workplace..
make sure the Church member knows OM's been there before.. tell him you are getting sick and tired of visiting yoru wife and finding that guy sneaking around and hiding in the bathroom
I am not an idiot, and i know who was hiding in that bathroom today... He may be able to hide his cowardly ass in the toilet but he can't hide his truck... THIS is the man who's going to protect you? This is the man who's goign to protect children when someone breaks into your home? He's HIDING in the TOILET... That's your brave romantic fantasy today... HIDING in teh TOILET... He's AFRAID of me... HE's afraid of me and children... What a coward...
And BURST into laughter and walk away to give your kids a hug
And Ken.. when you contact that church member who owns the lab... take him to dinner, don't ask him to ban OM from the lab on the phone... meet him face to face... Tell him OM was hiding in the toilet too...
I can't get that... I keep thinking and nothing's happening there... He talks to her in church... Show's no fear at all... Been at work before to talk to her... Why HIDE?
The only thing I can think of is he had his pants at his ankles or something like that... Which is unlikley... I just can't come up with a feasible explanation...
