My husband called about lunch time to tell me he'd be home at dinner. When I told him I had been on a bike ride his reply was "that's crazy! Don't you know its hot outside?" Old H used to enjoy being physically fit.
THe business is tricky, because basically although we ran it together, my H wants to dump it into my lap once the D is final. He's not interested in any further responsibility. So, financially I will be OK, but I get the added stress of either doing everything myself, or trying to hire and train someone new to take over his position. Since he's been absenting himself more and more, the staff has been picking up the slack a bit and we've managed. However, I don't want them abandoning ship once he's gone due to the daily increased stress. Will probably have to hire someone, but will cross that bridge once I get there. At least lots of folks need employment and it should be easy to find a good office manager.
I haven't packed up anything for him, mostly because I don't want to make it any easier for him to move out. I figure its what he wants to do, its his business to get it done. That being said, I've already been eyeing some new furniture and have some plans for indoor construction that we've discussed and he agreed to pay for. (one of his plans for the divorce was to empty all of our bank accounts and take the cash... what he thought was a fair trade for leaving me the business. I had to explain to him that I needed some $ to pay for bills and couldn't just start at zero)
Yes, I have also had the feeling that once he gets too much of OW he might realize its not a bed of roses. SHe seems very controlling and has him on a short leash, which I'm sure will start to chafe soon. I think for my own healing it might be good to have him completely out of the house, even if I still want the marriage.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
