Wow, Gucci! I like the fake friends bit a lot better than agreeing to be a genuine friend to a was. Allowing them to have a friendship with you is nothing more than cake-eating anyway. Why should they be allowed to f their OP, then turn to us to get some other fix through a "friendship" with the one they abandoned?
Also, I rarely go to the MLC board because I am attacked and accused of being a negative, bitter divorcee who dashes the hopes of MLC true believers just because I don't believe in "being still" while the was drains the bank account and sucks the life out of you.
Right....."be still"....make sure the house is spotless with all their favorite foods in the fridge.....just in case they stop by....
I do go to the MLC board to check on a poster whose sitch is very similar to mine, except I don't hold out hope after three years and I don't buy the fact that my ex in brainwashed, or "scared" of his new wife, etc.
I care about this poster very much and relate a lot, but I do not buy into the MLC bit. There is no empirical evidence and it is not recognized by the DSM-IV, etc.
I think that wrapping up in the MLC cloak is simply staying in denial and delaying any healing. Waiting....waiting....three years.....five years.....
Years are very precious and are better spent working on yourself instead of waiting....being still.....for someone who has shown no regard for our well-being, is capable of, and enjoys, inflicting pain on the ones who loved them.
Ah, but what does a negative, hope-dashing, bitter old divorcee know anyway?
