Gabbysmom, lol about the one nighters! Been there done that a few times in college and I honestly have no interest at this point. What is funny is that this next time around when I am dating, I have the advantage to use hindsight, you know? "If I knew now what I wish I knew then..." Well I do! ANd so do you of course!
When I am ready to date, which is when I am ready to potentially find a guy that I want to be with for something more serious, I feel confident that I will find a good guy within a year. But that doesn't mean I will move in fast or marry him quickly! 'When I fall in love, I'll take my time, There's no hurry when I'm making up my mind' I honestly believe I know how and where to meet men and now that I am more confident in myself and willing to take risks like be the one to make the first move, WATCH OUT!;) But I know not to be too smothering, too aggressive, too fast....
And I will have a thick skin. You see, last Saturday night, I went out with my friend J and her friend A joined us. The teacher of the wine class was cute, "nerdy cute" as J described. I like nerdy cute! Among other kinds of cute. But anyway, turns out that J and A (sorry to be so anonymous, lol!) both really liked him. Since I am not interested in dating right now, I didn't care. BUT I noticed that he totally was into J or A but not me. I didn't feel rejected about it. I kind of thought "ok, he likes edge-y girls. Guess I'm not his type. No biggee!"
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004