I have been away for a while and am just catching up. I read your last few post and first I want to say I am soooo sorry about your sitch. I really am.
I think you may be focusing too much on your H right now, which is normal at the 3 month mark. What you need to do is begin to really look inside of you. You need to realize what you did wrong in the M to get things to the point that they are at. Are you to blame for all of this? No not at all. The reason that you are looking internally is cause you do not want to repeat the mistake you made in your M in your next R, which just may be with your H.
So my advice...take some time to heal.. then go and live your life to the fullest.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans