Help - Is H coming Around?

[ShellDoll]

Thank you all -

Question is in the end whatever the out come do you want to be happy again??

I want to be happy albeit with my H I prefer. Knowing that there is nothing I can do to change his perspective is killing me.

I have been attempting to work on me for the last couple of months. I still see my IC once a week, I am on anti-depressants, I try to go out at least once a week with a girlfriend (sometimes difficult as they all have children). I just signed up as a volunteer for the Navy. I am also thinking about getting a certification to teach an exercise dance class. I am trying to keep myself busy, but this weekend has been challenging here in the house (trying to get long delayed housework done).

What do you want? Is it your desire to work towards reconcilation? Have you found out or is there anyway to find out if he is involved in an affair? Have you been responding to any of his e-mails?

It is my desire to work towards reconciliation, but he has to willing and right now, he is not - says he is still confused.

Agree with your H - "I don't want you to be with me for the wrong reasons either. Thanks for getting me on Skype it's helped me reconnect with some old friends." .....he is watching you.

If I agree with my H, he will say that then he was right because I agreed. I have not been on the defense for quite some time with him when we do speak. He called me today via Skyp$. Short conversation, but he did use some endearing terms; but keep asking me that if I ever need anything, that I should email him. Then he seems in a rush to hang up because he does not want to hear me say anything nice.

I wonder if it is his guilt. Yes, there was (not sure if there still is) an OW. He started sharing all of his issues with our marriage with her last summer. While he claims that it was never physical, I have always wondered if he did and that is most diffcult thing for me to swallow - that he slept with her!

I will try to continue to work on me. I will say that I am concerned about the possibility of him speaking to the OW while he is deployed and listening to his guy friend who doesn't believe in counseling and just continues to tell my H that he should do what makes him happy. We all know that this is a bunch of crock! Sorry to vent. Thank you for listening.