He has done SO many heinous things to me over the past few years and every time he knocks me down I bounce right back up and keep trying to change or fix things to make them better.
Irish do you think your H is deliberately doing these things to hurt you?
Do you think he tries to think of the worst thing he can do and then do it just to hurt you?
Has he always been this selfish and hurtful?
I will give you a second to think about that....
Ok?
Then
What Now?
I know it feels like you are the victim of his behavior.
We all start here.
It is the normal reaction...right?
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because I'm a "never give up" or "make the best of any situation" type of person
Except that you can't fix him Irish.
He is doing these things to himself not to you.
He is doing them because he is in more pain than you could ever imagine.
You don't want to know his pain. Just know that is the WHY behind the WHAT that has happened.
It does not excuse him.
And it does not excuse you for letting it break you.
Irish you have to find that courage deep down inside you.
You have to STAND up for YOURSELF.
Not by reacting with hurt and pain.
Not by running away.
Not by letting resentment fill your heart.
This is the road Irish.
This is the path we walk here.
You can come here and vent your pain and we are here to hear it and...
We are here to guide.
To show you the way.
Originally Posted By: Irish
He's cheated, humiliated, chastised, rejected
Has someone taken your dignity?
It is yours is it not? You control it.
You give it away if you let someone define it for you.
Originally Posted By: Irish
but I MUST move forward.
Atta girl.
Originally Posted By: Irish
I have made it through this weekend - albeit scarred - but I'm still standing (with bent knees-but standing!)
On your way to standing back up....
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
