You have to remember...I experienced all of this mlc nonsense 11 years ago. If you can step outside the ring, you will see things more clearly. When you are in the ring shadow boxing w/him, you cannot see things quite so clearly.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.