A, Divorce-busting tactics are not only to try to save your marriage, but to you assist you along the way. They are tactics that you can apply in your day-to-day life each and every day.
You can't win someone back who is already out the door and has his mind made up that he's not coming back. However, you can leave the door ajar and hope that some day, he'll take a long hard look in the mirror and come to realize that what he's been seeking was there right in front of his face all of the time. Your h is like most of them here, broken emotionally a long time ago by something tragic in their past. We can't bring out the glue to fix them...only they can choose to do that. What we can do is step back and allow them the space and time to heel.
A, no matter what, you will always have feelings for him, but you cannot put your life on hold. Grief takes time to get through and then one day, you begin to notice things around you once again. Give yourself time to grieve, but please, do not put your life on hold. Every day brings promise of new adventures and life is waiting to embrace you once again. God does have a special plan for each and every one of us...we just have to be patient.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
