No TH, I think QS is making changes to benefit him and he appreciates them for their own sake here...
QS I will make one point though, don't expect DBing to take only a few weeks... MWD gave a VERY ROUGH estimate of one month of dbing is required for every year you were togehter..
So your wife is gonig to be an MESS for nine months and you will have to keep up the fight for nine months... are you up for that?
I don't think she will stay ANGRY for nine months, but she will fight you for nine months roughly... might be less, might be more...
Don't think thirty days is gonna chagne anythying... SeeingRed on this forum has been fighting for THREE YEARs... she's playing softball granted, and i don't agree with that, but it will give you an idea how long this CAN take... Puppy is one of the hardliners here and it took three months for him to turn his wife around...
I don't think you're trying to control her QS, I think you're trying to influence her...
Pup, I hear ya on the let it go thing... I would just quibble on the amount of time before doing so... I have told 4luv and a few others on here "let it go", but they were fighting for over a year...
And despite the pain you're experiencing QS, dbing is good THERAPY for YOU... YOU will feel like a better person when you're done...
You see... MWD is tricking all of us... DBing isn't to save your marriage, its therapy to save YOU from a life is repeated marital mistakes... I bet my HOME on it that you won't make this mistake again with your wife OR any other female you choose to marry later should that happen... I think you ARE growing... If you can stomach the pain it's worth it...
No pain, no gain my man... I think you're doin great..
You can see you are making a dent... I say keep up the fight...
Keep educating your exposure group and keep making the home more inviting... avoid interacting with her directly... speak with mature actions... that's how you shout right now...
