I guess I have two questions now. Being he still thinks we are 'friends' because I have not set boundaries, do we get together to talk so I can tell him this is not how I want to live?.....I will not be his friend while he is still talking to OW! If I do tell him...how do I say it?
I am of the philosophy that you really let go and when the "friends" thing comes up...."Oh yea, sure, we can be friends. We probably make better friends than we do lovers, and I now realize that you were right, I will always love you, but I am not IN love with you either".. and then I would in reality, be a terrible friend. One that doesn't answer all calls, one that treats him like he treats you. etc. etc.. In other words, my actions would be the exact opposite of what I had told him. I would then be out dating others and see how he handles the friendship when THAT happens.
It doesn't make sense to want to reconcile and be married and yet tell them you won't be their friend. It actually works better the other way around. Tell them you don't want to be married to them and that it would be better that you are friends because you are not IN love with them anymore. It shows more of the "letting go" to do it that way. Like it is now no longer a big deal what he is doing. Water off your back. You tell him you are ok with being friends, and your actions show you are going to be as bad of a friend as he is.
Take a page from the WS.. They almost always say they are not IN love with you and then almost always say that they want to be friends. Do what they do.
